What do pro choice women really want


In response to the Planned Parenthood scandal a nationwide protest was organized in various locations in front of Planned Parenthood, calling governments to investigate and de-fund the criminal organization. The nationwide #ProtestPP event was organized even in Manhattan, NYC in the International Margret Sanger Center, the nation’s abortion capital where I happened to take part. In response to this event a counter protest was organized by the Stop Patriarchy group around the same time and location. Almost 50 pro choice people signed up to attend the event. On the day of the event myself along with three other sidewalk counselors were busy trying to speak to women about alternative options as crowd started to gather around each side with growing hostility. Planned parenthood did not halt the abortions irrespective of the protest outside. We witnessed roughly 20- 25 women getting into the clinic for whatever services including abortion.

As the clock struck 9 there was considerable crowd in bleecker street with cops giving instructions and placing railings and by standers stopping by curious to know what’s happening. Almost 100 pro-life people were already there with various signs and I turned around to look at the crowd gathered in the spot assigned for pro-choice people and chuckled because there wasn’t even 10 by then. I had a sense of relief but more than that a sense of mischievous happiness in witnessing the ‘good’ being stronger than ‘evil’. Around 9.30 am two women marched across the street towards the side where pro-life people were assigned a space to protest and started shouting the infamous slogans. I was immersed in observing their behavior, looks, campaigning tactics, catchphrase and the overall response to more than 150 pro life people who out number them by 10:150 ratio.

Let me give a glimpse of the pro choice counter protest

There were not even 20 protesters to counter the massive 150+ pro-life protesters. The pro-choice group was seen asking passersby to stop and stand for a while to support them, which is a cheap tactic for a notable organization like Stop Patriarchy. However that did not surprise me. There was only 2 strong women that tirelessly kept shouting at the top of their voice and the others looked like they were ashamed to belong to such a minority group and did not bother to shout as much as these two activists. Their slogans were aimed at church, patriarchy, women enslavement, rape and incest, women’s rights but nothing about the actual problem which is Planned Parenthood using illegal partial birth abortions and selling the parts of babies to make profit. It was clear indeed that these women were looking to pick a fight. Their anger was evident and true. They were not bothered about the abortion pictures show cased by pro-life group. My husband was astonished at the ferocity of these women and unable to comprehend their true mentality came up to ask me “why are these women so violent, so angry…what do they want?”

My answer was LOVE

With all my observations poured into the context of answering my husband I was surprised at the answer myself. The answer actually began with a series of questions :

  1. Would a child raised in a loving environment under the care of a devoted father and a mother grow up to scream “women are not your incubators” and sex is not for children?
  2. Would a girl who has met a trust worthy boy friend who has a great respect for her mind, body and soul will scream pro-life is women enslavement?
  3. Would a woman whose husband fights for her dignity, is an unfailing and responsible protector, stand there and blame pro-life men as anti women.

I would normally say ‘no’. These women and girls, so called feminists fighting against patriarchy are ‘wounded souls’. They are those whose trust in men has been betrayed. They are those whose father, brother, boy friend or husband had done something at some point in their lives that has broken their hearts, these girls are those whose family has betrayed them. Altogether they are those who haven’t experienced LOVE . While discussing about them a friend of ours shared his opinion which was indeed wonderful. These women have to be appreciated for one thing: they are cold. They are not those lukewarm indifferent people. They are like Saul waiting to meet Jesus for a dramatic transformation into Paul, to become a fervent soldier for Christ.

These women need to experience the sacrificial love of someone: especially a man, through whom they should be healed off of their disappointment and heart breaks. Even Abby Johnson the former Director of Planned Parenthood, the abortion giant claims that the unconditional love of her husband who was pro-life back then when she was pro-choice was a catalyst to her conversion. In the same way these women are yet to meet that someone who will mirror Christ through whom their trust should be restored, that they realize that in giving they will not lose themselves rather gain life. And ours is a great responsibility here: to get on our knees and to pray for this to happen.

“It is the duty of every man to uphold the dignity of every woman.”

– St.John Paul II


A lone voice…

I have 300+ friends in Facebook, blessed with almost 20+ cousins, am in touch with my school mates and college mates, though am an immigrant to America my husband has a fair amount of contacts living here in States including his kith and kins, I am active in Facebook, in Whats-app and most of all in our Church and diocese, but the interesting fact is that when I post about Abortion in my Facebook page everything comes to standstill. I have fairly had 70 plus likes for my profile picture which I consider least important for the kind of attention I give to my personal appearance however the posts on Abortion, Euthanasia and anything pertaining to culture of Life suffers from lack of attention.

What could be the reason?

Indian folks care less about the real social life.

Being social these days mean the extent to which extrovert you are, the clubs, parties and associations that you spend time with after those hideous over consuming work hours, the frequency of trips to cities and shopping engagements whether you like it or not and the broad range of circle you claim to be friends but whose real joy or sorrow you have no clue of. The so called ‘social’ gatherings always chatter about the new exciting things they have done or would undertake shortly, the material possessions that have been gained with the job they grumble about mostly than being grateful for, chirppings about false appreciations that they really don’t mean but fake for the sake they know not and an ever ending empty conversations of buying a house, traveling, enjoying life etc. So while the air is consumed and chocked by this popular notion of social life let’s think about what this generation is missing. There is another meaning to ‘social life‘ that of or relating to the life, welfare, and relations of human beings in a community:social problems. Where are those kind of conversations about the well being of the family, inquiries about friends difficulty in the past that he has confided, discussions about the upbringing of children, sharing about religion, empathizing with the social problems and queries about politics? The missing element of this generation is  altruism , the concern for the neighbor, the welfare of others. Parents daringly train their offspring in this attitude. So what matters to me if He/She has an abortion, if he/she uses contraception, if he/she is a victim of rape, if he/she decides to euthanize his/her parents. Indians will not openly fight against abortion because they are afraid of being questioned and losing contacts.

The Priorities have changed

The priority of every Indian household is career. . It’s no more family, education or happiness. While the land is known for searching withing self and attaining self realization, Indians now are more geared toward things without, markedly grades and jobs. Indian women value career over marriage and family these days. People care less about spirituality and more about materials. A collective blind run for success  seems to have drugged Indian men and women into an unending race which costs the society in a slow pace whose fruits the country should be ready to reap in next 2 decades. From a culture centered around family India is in a dangerous journey towards independence and self centered narcissism. Indians will not openly fight against abortion because it makes them very uncomfortable to see themselves and their new priorities.

What’s the attitude towards life? Consumerism

The stereotype of Indians being spiritual people can no more be a popular notion. India is ridiculously materialistic. The motto of a typical Indian is ‘work hard and get rich’ . The pursuit of truth, happiness or meaningful life can be scarcely found among Indian household. Parents encourage their children to take up ‘survival of fittest’ philosophy, competition is celebrated and co operation is a long forgotten virtue. Schools enslave children over scores for their marketing and parents enslave children for the same for the sake of boasting. There is no more value for cultivation of virtues, teaching morals or basic concern for humanity.  Indians will not voice out against abortion because they don’t want anything to come on their way of comfortable consumerist life.

Ignorant journey towards choice

Women in India claim not feeling guilty about choosing abortion over career. ‘choice’ is an upcoming poplar term in India. Fairly used by feminists to achieve whatever they demand. The growing thirst for power of women and their ever ending quest for independence cost marriage, family and children. There is no greater difference between need and want. Not only does more number of Indian women want to work but they are encouraged even sometimes forced by their greedy husbands to do so reducing the kind of attention women can intrinsically give to families. With this much rapidly communicable infection of greed India’s cultural foundation is threatened more than ever.  While consumerism gains momentum the value of human life degrades to a much pathetic level. Indians will not fight against abortion because women no more have intrinsic motherhood within them.

I work 5 days a week

So in all this drama centered around “I me myself” the selective meaning Indian population gives to social life is one that of pub, party and social gatherings doing nothing but the same thing expecting different results. Isn’t that madness? To do something again and again but to expect different results? Where does concern for ‘neighbor’ fit in here? Where is the time for the sick friend, the deserted child, the tired maid, the kids on streets, the babies murdered silently in hospitals, the unjust sterilizations, the mass human rights violations, the person hanged by death penalty, the elderly killed in the name of mercy?

With this change in the society and culture here I am open in my stand against the culture of death and in the fight against abortion. I care not who responds, or comes out for discussion or likes or dislikes i keep spreading message about the Sanctity of Life whenever opportunity arises. If you are one like me and wonder why Indians are so silent in social media, let me tell you, they are busy buying stuff and will never dare to stand for a cause. And you will be just like me:

 I am a voice of one crying in the wilderness,”Make straight the way of the Lord”


How many have we lost?

Children vulnerable to abortion are precious and much more special. Well, every life is valuable and has it’s worth for the sole purpose of its existence and being.   It’s because not only do we realize the value of every human life to be worth fighting for, but we also know that these children hold some special gifts that could benefit the world. You may ask what supports our claim. Here are 5 great examples that will get you thinking on what if those children massacred in the abortion facilities could have been saved. What would the world become of them?

1. Celine Dion

Pretty hard to begin talking about this lady whose achievements are quite stunning and jaw dropping. 558 awards and 685 nominations, to be precise12 World Music Awards, 5 Grammy Awards, 10 Billboard Music Awards, 7 American Music Awards, 20 Juno Awards, 43 Félix Awards  and many more. On September 15 2004, Dion received a Diamond Award at the World Music Awards show, for selling over 175 million albums during her career. And why all this should interest a pro-life advocate you, who’s reading this? because Celine has admitted that her mother asked her parish priest if she could have abortion. However the parish priest counseled her to choose life. Celine says. “So I have to admit that in a way, I owe my life to that priest.”

2. Ludwig Van Beethoven

The father spends his evenings out drinking in the taverns. His mother has tuberculosis. She has already given birth to four children. The first child is blind, the second child died, the third child is deaf, and the fourth child has tuberculosis. When the mother of Beethoven did not want the child and attempted to have an abortion, the procedure failed and eventually the world received the best of the symphonies. Almost 27 years prior to his death his hearing capacity deteriorated and by the last decade he was almost deaf, many of his most admired works come from this period. The famous documentary Crescendo which depicts the life of Beethoven won 11 international awards, but the interesting factor is that it’s executive producer Pattie Mallette is another mother who refused abortion and chose life. She is none other than the mother of Justin Beiber.

3. Jack Nicholson

If you want to remember him as the prolific actor we’ve been gifted with, try watching one flew over cuckoo’s nest. An actor, producer, director and screen writer with a record of 65 films, 72 awards, 12 Academy Award nominations and 3 wins, he has won seven Golden Globe Awards, and received a Kennedy Center Honor in 2001. In 1994, he became one of the youngest actors to be awarded the American Film Institute’s Life Achievement Award. Jack Nicholson’s mother was pressured by her peers to have an abortion. Luckily she did not go through with it, otherwise we wouldn’t have this legendary actor in our lives! “I’m very contra my constituency in terms of abortion because I’m positively against it. I don’t have the right to any other view,” the actor once said, according to a 2003 report in National Review. “My only emotion is gratitude, literally, for my life.” You hardly hear such a statement from a Manhattan guy.

4. Andrea Bocelli

Named one of People Magazine’s 50 most beautiful  people, Andrea has won 13 Classic Brit awards, 7 World Music awards, 3 Grammy award, 1 Emmy award, Platinum award and much more. While Andrea’s mother was pregnant with him, she had to visit doctor for appendicitis. the doctors treated her and suggested that she abort the child because the child might be born disabled. Andrea in one of his stage performances recalls his story and thanks his brave mother for choosing life even while he was blind. His heroic witness should help mother’s facing unplanned pregnancies think twice about the life or death decision they are going to make.

5.  Pope St.John Paul II

The key figure behind the collapse of Communism, Pope John Paul II had been outspoken in his support to the “Solidarity” movement that catalyzed the fall of communist regime in Europe and Russia, though he had never visited Russia. So much so was he feared for his charismatic presence that the Chinese government did not allow him to enter the country for the fear of preserving their oppressive regime. An intensive traveler, he made 104 international trips, and visited 130 countries traveling the distance of three times from earth to moon. The first Pope to step inside a synagogue since the times of Jesus.He was also the first Pope to kiss a Koran, and step inside a mosque. The first Pope to write an apostolic letter directed to women, Mulieris Dignitatem. The total writings of the Pope equals to the amount of 3 bible. While Emilia, the Pope’s mother was in ill health, she was asked by her gynecologist to undergo abortion, since having the child will cost Emilia’s health.But Sr.Karol and Emilia chose life and here we have the greatest man of the 20th century.

Now, what’s your opinion about the millions of children aborted every minute in the name of freedom of choice? May be there’s special dynamics happening around the destiny of these vulnerable one’s so much powerful that the collective evil works against the poor souls to never let the world experience their legacy.

Every child that isn’t born, but is unjustly condemned to be aborted, has the face of Christ. – Pope Francis

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What a single person can do ?

Planned Parenthood of America has been caught performing illegal partial birth abortions for the procurement and selling of human body parts of aborted babies which is again illegal. The videos that were released by the Center for Medical Progress have touched the hearts of even people who claim to be “pro-choice” or  “pro-abortion”. In the wake of such an incident that the whole nation is outraged, every individual is affected by it in some way. I am deeply distressed by this event like many other people who were personally depressed by this piece of news. And while trying to digest this piece of information I slip by one of the pages in internet only to learn about the Ministry of Health in India has proposed to extend abortion up to 24 weeks and to liberalize the service in much more way. The account of 14 year old girl raped by her doctor has reached supreme court which has been waiting to open the gates of abortion wide open to anyone who demands it. It feels like something stabbed me right in my chest.  I was even more frustrated by  “what can i do? phenomena.

I am a single person . I do not work for a pro life organization, I do not have a larger social circle of friends or family, I am an immigrant, I am not in my country, I am enraged by this grave injustice that occurs to not only babies but in way even to the women(mothers) who are sold abortions as a quick fix. I am a single person, how can I even react to these events that shows the all time low of humanity. If you are either in America or Peru or India or Africa and witness similar gruesome injustice to the dignity of human life then my account might help you in some way. These are some simple things a person can do to protect the Sanctity of Life :

1. Prayer : While people might laugh at you at this suggestion let me remind you about the clinics that gets shut down by the famous Helpers of God’s Precious Infants Vigil and 40 days for Life program. If you are pretty shy to pray before an abortion clinic, you could pray inside a church or pray personally for an end to abortion in your community or nation. Or help the parish or diocesan Respect Life Committee organize ‘Mass for Life’, or hold a “Holy Hour for Life’ in your Church or youth group. If you’re someone with guts, just drive down to the nearest clinic and say a Rosary. Things change in an unimaginable way.

2. Get active in Church : You could start a pro-life committee in your church. If there’s one already then work with them to promote events like baby shower/cradle of love program to collect items for mothers who choose to keep their baby rather aborting them. Help these mothers with their pregnancy by praying for them, supporting them, encouraging them. Sometimes all they’re looking for is just someone to speak with and someone who will appreciate their struggle. Honor these women for their courage. Get in contact with Parishioners through bulletin. Have Pro Life educational brochures in the entrance of the Church.

3. Social Media : The Gen Y has a mobile and a Facebook account at the least. Leave alone whats app, twitter or Instagram. You can use these tools to spread the message of Gospel of Life. Do not be stringent with that Facebook Like button. You are never going to run out of them. Like, Share and comment on pro-life posts. You never know someone who is watching your posts might be touched by it. Join pro life groups and take part in group discussions to know what others are doing to promote the sanctity of Life, learn from others on different ways of evangelizing people. Will you do this if i say country’s political systems have crashed just by the use of social media? It’s not a waste of time to use those hashtags or making those videos.  I can personally assure you of conversion through this medium. People have changed their hearts after arguments presented in loving and humble manner. Sometimes thats the firt time they’ve been presented with the ‘Truth’. Even if a single heart is changed or touched, it’s worth it. But before doing that,

4. Get to know facts : Before using Social Media as a tool to fight the Culture of Death it is very important to equip oneself with the knowledge necessary to begin discussions, proclaim truth, engage in conversations and change hearts. This includes knowing the philosophical teachings that form the foundations of “Dignity” of human life, getting familiar with the scientific facts about development of human person, other issues that threaten the dignity of human life  (Abortion, Euthanasia, Surrogacy, Embryo experimentation, organ trafficking, IVF and other Artificial reproductive methods, egg donation, egg freezing, bioethics, artificial birth control and it’s effects etc  )

Most important is to be familiar with how these issues affect your community, culture and country. I’ve seen many Pro life people in India who are familiar with issues affecting America but they have least idea what’s happening in their backyard.

5.  Recycle/Reuse: I am a Craiglist girl. When I came to America I was so impressed to see how people recycled and wear ready to reuse things instead of forming gutters. I was so excited I started looking for baby cribs and strollers and would go to homes and pick them up and deliver them to Sisters right when a mom is expecting or is in need. This gives opportunity to talk about the mission of the Sisters or for that matter any Crisis Pregnancy Center by thanking them for indirectly helping moms. This is a simple thing a person can do. But it makes a huge difference for the young mother who goes to school and still  decides to have her child instead of the pressure of abortion.

6. Get active in community : The world is so busy that the business and the lifestyle of common man has been shaped by greater economic policies in such a way that his social life is seriously affected and he is isolated. It’s hard to gather people under one roof than it was 10 years ago. Everybody is in a rush for one’s livelihood. But it is during such a time is the greater need for common action. Do you think those people rallying, marching and protesting are wasting their time? Not at all. Such events create an impact in governmental decisions and shaping the Culture and majority opinion.

Is the Ministry of Health India proposing an Amendment to the Medical Termination of Pregnancy Act? then it’s time for you to show up in the rally. In this way you educate people on what’s going on around and you have given a part of yourself to defend those defenseless unborn babies whose voice will not be heard.

7. Sidewalk Counseling : May it be India or America. People living in countries which exercise ‘Democracy’ have the right to ‘Free Speech’. Right to Freedom of Expression and Speech is a fundamental right in India as a first Amendment rights in US. If Family Planning Association of India the affiliate of Planned Parenthood exercises it free speech way beyond limits by taking control of schools and giving filthy sex education to 6th grade children then it’s high time for you and me to courageously use our Fundamental Rights. Being in front of clinics and trying to offer help peacefully doesn’t violate any laws and is legal to do. Women have the right to know the truth. And this approach is the last chance to get them the options they need. If you’re called to be in front lines to defend life there’s plenty of materials in web with which you could train yourself.


8. Volunteer : This is another great way to contribute to fighting the Culture of Death. There are genuine groups out there who do not do things for money or fame but for the right intention- to save souls, save lives, families and do them without expecting something in return. Voluntering helps the giver much more than the reciever. And nothing is best than giving one’s time, strength and talents. Sister’s of Life and Helpers of God’s Precious Infants are the two best in America so far that i’ve personally encountered. The best way to find out if you’re with the right group is to seek these attributes in them: Poverty – working for “Life” for money never works (trust me) and if they have ‘Poverty’ as their charisma, like Helpers and Sisters of Life thats the best attribute one can find to be sure of right place. Money does more harm than good in this battle of Life, second is Blessed Mother- any group that keeps away God and especially Blessed Mother to embrace all in name of ‘ecumenical’ or to be a common non religious affiliation or to be hidden for tactical reasons is not going to win. It will be stupidest to think so and there’s a very very strong reasons to this. Also look for organization in their readiness to ‘Give’ than receive.

There are several NGOs in India that care for deserted pregnant moms and children. Get to know the one in your neighborhood, spend time with them, help them, encourage their staff, be a friend for these people.

No matter if you have a full time job or work around the clock you can always work to promote the Sanctity of Life. All you need is the heart that suffers with those who are oppressed.

“Give us the grace – When the sacredness of life before birth is attacked, to standup and proclaim that no one ever has the authority to destroy unborn life.” – Pope St.John Paul the Great