A letter to my liberal friend!

Dear x,

Am not scandalized by your position on abortion and euthanasia. I am very well aware that people who stand for abortion cannot but have to support euthanasia, and people who support euthanasia have to move forward to extend their support to suicide and people who are generous enough to end their neighbors suffering and advocate to end their life, cannot stop themselves from thinking that whoever suffers needs to be free of suffering and therefore it’s justifiable to kill those with schizophrenia or bipolar, depression or PTSD, and people who want everyone with defects to be killed cannot but advocate for killing of any kind. Oh how wonderful the world looks from this looking glass! Anybody can kill anybody for any reason! Is that fair?

I do understand your noble intention of freedom of choice and the longing to end human suffering has made you to stand in favor of abortion and euthanasia. I am not against choice and neither am I against freedom. But if these are the two important reason you put forward just like any typical new yorker, then i’ll need some answers regarding your opinions.

  1. Is it justifiable to kill people, especially vulnerable people?
  2. If you think it’s a woman’s choice to decide the course of pregnancy, what about the human being with a distinct DNA, finger print, uniqueness within her, what about his/her choice? and where is the man, what is his role in all this?
  3. What is the meaning of human suffering? we enter the world through the intense suffering of another person, our mother,which was indeed life- affirming i.e; giving life through suffering and how all of a sudden we try to run away from suffering and even kill people and dare to call it ‘compassion’.

My friend. The word compassion is quite opposite of what your intention is. It’s derived from a latin word called ‘compati’ which means ‘to suffer with’, to suffer along, to be in your suffering, to take part in one’s suffering. And to my knowledge in any given situation, human suffering is shared either voluntarily or involuntarily by the person next to the one who primarily suffers. The bereavement and hospice counselors are excellent resource in explaining the effect a  terminally ill person can have on their family and friends. The burden of walking along with them, may it be of financial, physical, psychological or spiritual is quite intense. And Euthanasia my friend is exactly opposite to this. It’s a sugar-coated way of saying I can no more tolerate you, your suffering has no meaning and hoping that you’ll get well and blossom again is a waste of time and I better take control of things and finish it for the good of myself. It’s really a soft way of saying please die soon I have other things to take care of. Is that what LOVE does?

Nobody can call an abortion or euthanasia as an act of LOVE. Because LOVE does not kill, LOVE does not murder, LOVE does not run away, LOVE doesn’t try to escape, LOVE wouldn’t think for oneself, LOVE tolerates, LOVE doesn’t snatch rather it gives and gives until it hurts, LOVE takes responsibility, LOVE suffers for the sake of the one loved, LOVE is kind-patient, it hopes, waits, believes and bears all. LOVE is the exact opposite of abortion and euthanasia because, Love can best be expressed only through suffering and one could also say suffering exists for the purpose of Love.

Finally I want to show you these videos and ask the same questions to your face. Is this is what you call freedom of choice? is this is what you call women empowerment? Is this is what you call ‘compassion’?

Love,

your bff.

 

 

 

” he suffered under Pontius Pilate, was crucified, died and was buried.
He descended to the dead. On the third day, He rose again.” – The Creed

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Indians in D.C @March for Life?

For the first time I’ll be taking part in this huge event. I am not surprised that out of thousands of Indians who flock to America none had ever spoken about it in public or even in private (except for my husband- sometimes it pays off to be submissive as the Bible says). And for the slightest mention about abortion in the families- it was quite a usual remark from one of the relatives who mentioned casually that she almost decided to go ahead with abortion since she couldn’t tolerate the sickness associated with pregnancy. For such a casual mention that “I can’t handle vomiting all the time, it was so terrible I almost started to hospital to do abortion…” I could never grasp the meaning of abortion until one day I decided to google myself about it.

I’ve never heard about abortion in churches or schools, not even in sunday class or even during marriage preparation class. And now I know that the millions of men and women in India will be just like me, growing up not knowing about this silent holocaust. They can’t be blamed because in an overpopulated country like India where it’s quite mundane to witness human suffering, you almost get immune to it. Many westerners must have heard about Bl.Mother Teresa’s account on the people dying in streets, the slums, the orphans, the crowded hospitals which is very much still the same in India. However there has been no detailed account of what’s happening to the unborn in our country. There’s not even proper statistics on the number of children victimized to abortion.

Everyone seems to know about Indians who rule the world through invisible technology. Sathya Nadella the CEO of Microsoft, Sundar Pichai CEO of Google, Indira Nooyi CEO of Pepsico, Ajaypal Singh CEO of MasterCard, Shantanu CEO of Adobe, Francisco DSouza heading Cognizant, Vikram Pandit CEO of Citigroup, Surya Mahapotra CEO of Quest Diagnostics, Ivan Menezes CEO of Diageo and many more, however not even Indians know how many children are lost to the brutality of “Choice”/ abortion, a woman’s weapon to freedom and empowerment. Indians are lost in the pursuit of  ever ending materialism. Not only the Indians abroad but also Indians in India. St. John Paul II clearly cautioned people against consumerism which can destroy one’s soul in the never ending pursuit of materials which is evident with respect to Indians.

Will it be possible to get hold on to values and virtues rather than chattel and capital? The millennials are very much broad minded to have higher pursuits other than the monotony that controlled the Gen-X however it’s important to keep in mind that higher pursuits doesn’t necessarily mean selling off everything to go on an unplanned journey or trying new age spirituality. Higher pursuit simply means what can one do for one’s neighbor, and the neighbor could be any person who is suffering directly in front of you. And if such a highly educated, technocrat generation cannot defend the most tiny, innocent, defenseless human being- the baby in womb, then there can be no end to any sort of violence in the world unfortunately. If the dignity of a human being cannot be recognized in the child inside the pregnant mother, it cannot be recognized in the poor, the disabled, the depressed, the addict, the broken and bruised of every nature. Just like they kill the defenseless: the unborn, the terminally ill, the aged, those with down syndrome and autism  they will begin exterminating the wounded soldiers, the physically challenged, the mentally challenged and slowly to anyone who will not fit into their criteria.

If people say it’s not ok to kill in the name of religion and nation and advocate for a women’s choice- abortion then they’re undoubtedly hypocrite, if people say it’s not ok to hurt puppies and become vegans yet go blind to the massacre of the 50 million babies then they’re hypocrite, If people say it’s not ok to hurt women and yet do not think about the forceps pulling the bones and tearing the tissues apart is not violence then they’re hypocrite, if people say it’s not ok to hurt children and shrug about abortion they’re nothing but definitely hypocrites. As Bl. Mother Teresa said :

If Abortion isn’t wrong, then nothing is wrong.

And hope this humble effort of blogging, facebooking, counseling, talking one on one to friends and family about life and dignity will cause a ripple in the massive Indian community who will be, and should be moved to defend the Sanctity of Human Life. As Servant of God Dorothy Day says : we must lay one brick at a time, take one step at a time.

Where is Christ truly?

I remember during my first year of post graduation I felt helpless in an argument with a classmate on the existence of God and Jesus as a person and could do nothing but lose myself in the inability to prove my faith. I felt so beaten up with each question that was thrown against me by my own best friend who almost made me weak and pathetic and made me feel like some mindless, sick, superstitious, primitive  who believes in something for no reason. But deep down in my heart I couldn’t just give in to the fact that life is meaningless and we all came from apes and we go nowhere. I searched for God. Even with all catechism and Mass and Sacraments I never felt this need met. Isn’t this a universal search? May be the need to meet God, to know Him personally are disguised or misled into a search for things and people? Are those unquenchable desire for possessions, honor, attention and everything are some kind of misplaced affection?  Because I look at my overflowing wardrobe and feel is this the result of some misplaced affection? The Catechism of the Catholic Church says The desire for God is written in the human heart, because man is created by God and for God; and God never ceases to draw man to himself. Only in God will he find the truth and happiness he never stops searching for.” And this search is the essence of today’s liturgical celebration.

I should confess I stole the title from Aletia whose article also discusses on the same question: Where is Christ?  The essence of Epiphany is this question revolving around the entire event of man going in search of God who indeed came for man and the nature of this search. Well the search doesn’t seem all comfy and exciting. The very first thing that the wise men face in this search for God is the call to make an unexpected journey into a foreign space. God cannot be found amidst comfort. The opportunity to encounter Him often comes disguised in the toughest situations- like an invitation to spend New Year with in-laws or in front of abortion clinics or the job situations where you are stuck between office politics and loving the neighbor or in the subway. The chance to encounter Him comes with a challenge. Most often unrecognizable often to be missed. In the places you don’t expect and don’t want to. But it’s up to us to say yes or no. Say yes, face the pain and move on like the Magi or say no and take no risk at all. But the Epiphany proves the risk is worth it. St Augustine says “To fall in love with God is the greatest romance; to seek Him the greatest adventure; to find Him, the greatest human achievement.”

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So where do we begin this search for Christ in this modern world? Again another challenge,another disguise. You can never find him if you are going to go around looking for Him with a picture in your head. The Magi were expecting to see a royal child because they were in search of a King. They almost lost Him however they found the star once they left King Herod. An unexpected twist and further journey into the unknown. Yet they kept going. They did lose track and had to get back in. They had moments of great confusion because nobody in Jerusalem understood who they were searching for. The wise men were really wise men which had them risk being misunderstood too. They stood out from crowd. Going to go in search of a personal encounter with God? then be ready to feel lonely, threatened, confused, tired, even giving-up, and risk losing everything.

The truth is, you might find Him in the most unlikely places but most of all in the most unlikely persons. It could be the drunkard in the road, the man who begs in subway, or your friend who is pro-choice or the child who’s inside mothers womb begging to live or even the Mother herself. It could be even those with whom you try to keep yourself far away. Those hurt, wounded, bandaged relationships that are so fragile to handle, those whom we consider major annoyance, those who might get into our nerves, those we like to forget or even want to intimidate, those who try to put us down. It could be any one of them or even all of them.

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St.Francis of Assisi disliked lepers however one day when he overcame his fears and hugged one of them and walked away, it turned out to be Jesus. St.Martin had found a beggar in street and when he shared his cloak that night Jesus came in his dreams wearing the same cloak and thanked him for it. Even on the road to Emmaus the disciples did not recognize Jesus because they were holding a different picture of resurrection in their mind. Break the mental images and we can recognize Him wherever He manifests.

Ultimately the truth is “Everyone you meet is Jesus in disguise.”(Bl.Mother Teresa ) and the Epiphany is about undertaking the journey into unknown of recognizing Him. The event has a happy ending. The next time you think you don’t like someone or want to avoid something think twice. It could be an Epiphany.

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