Why should I do Sidewalk Counseling when there’s no turnaround?

I have been involved in sidewalk counseling for over three years now and haven’t had a single ‘save’. So, why should you be there at the abortion clinic trying to offer help when there is no visible sign of change of heart encountered personally? I mean, when there is no turnaround, when there is not a single sign of a child’s life has been saved because you were there? These are few questions that I encountered, continue to encounter and happen to share with some of my friends doing the same work. These questions might sound silly and could also be answered in simple ways but it’s never enough for those in similar position. I always found them to be unsettling. But lately I’ve been looking deeper into what I experience standing at these places where babies die every day.

I do sidewalk counseling at one of the most busiest abortion clinics in United States. They’re open seven days a week, from 7 am – 10 pm. Even on Christmas day and New Years day. Below are some of my experiences which bring reassurance every time the same question raises in my head. Why should I be here in front of this clinic when I don’t get a turnaround, when I don’t get to save the life of a child?

Monsignor Reilly of Helpers of God’s Precious Infants introduced me to this place. I did what he asked me to do. “Stay there and give this material to the mothers as they come, tell them either their friend or someone in need would find help in this information and give them the rosary.” As much as I was terrified at being in front of an abortion clinic, I was beyond terror in the idea of handing out rosaries in the public. I did it anyway. At the end of each day I kept telling him : I’m not sure if am called to do this, am not good at speaking to people, am an introvert and I like it that way, this is out of my comfort zone and most of all my ultimate card is ” I don’t get any turnarounds” which i thought was a sign to me that I wasn’t meant to do Sidewalk Counseling. Every time I came up with any of these excuses he used to say, “Don’t say that, you do not know how many lives your’e saving. People don’t really come back and say but there are hearts transformed and babies saved.” This wasn’t enough for me. But I continued doing what I was doing for months and all of a sudden these things started happening to me. When I began to ponder on those incidents, I began to find my answers. May be these might be of help to you in your sidewalk journey.

  1. Yesterday a man kept starring at me in an anticipation of having a conversation. After 10 minutes he came up and asked, “what’s happening here?” I told him that this was an abortion clinic which performs abortions up to 6 months. I could the see shock in his eyes. He kept shaking his head in disbelief saying “they’re playing God, this is life” and so on. We kept talking about the place and the help offered to the mothers etc. He said he was recently baptized and going through a difficult time himself with questions about the purpose of life and meaning of his existence and that he was being tempted to commit suicide. He kept giving himself reassurance as he shared his battle with thoughts of suicide. I could see how depressed and broken one must be to try to find help and hope that with a simple sign of God (I was holding bunch of Rosaries in my hand ) that they try to do the right thing. I reminded him to hold on and that times of rest is on the way and that he’s precious in God’s eyes. His eyes welled up. He said he will try to remind himself about that. I was present in front of the clinic that day just for him to know that God loves him and that his life matters.
  2. I happen to speak with a young woman the same day as I offered her the brochure along with the rosary. She never knew this place performed abortions too. I told her how as she sat in the waiting room some babies get to live and some get to die. She was shocked because she was there for her general check up. I encouraged her to find some other place. On her way back she came to me and asked how I do this work because she wanted to help. I gave her the number of Sisters of Life to get started. I was present in front of the clinic that day to show her that she can be a witness to life. Who knows, she might begin Sidewalk counseling some day or become a prolife warrior herself.
  3.  Last month I was in my usual spot. I should confess it was a slow day for me. I didn’t handout much brochures or approach many people. It was one of my low days. As I was about to leave with a empty and indifferent heart a woman came close to me and asked what I was doing. I explained myself and she said “I don’t believe in abortions, but I can’t say to someone else, you know there are women who get raped”. Uhh rape! really! I’ll try my best to handle this I told myself. I agree with you partly I said, but the child didn’t rape her right, would you say the child is a victim or perpetrator? She looked at me and suddenly turned her gaze away saying, true- but let me tell you, her “true” wasn’t loud enough. I spoke with her for next 10 minutes all of a sudden she began to cry. She said she was the 9th child to her mother, her mom had her and her sisters when the father left her, she brought them all up by herself and she could never see anymore more stronger than her mom. I reminded her of women’s strength and love is stronger than death. She thanked me and she wants to meet her mom right away and thank her for having her. She said “I could have easily ended up as an abortion myself, i should go and meet my mom it’s her birthday this week”. I was there that day at the clinic just for this to happen.
  4. A couple were rushing past by me after parking their car. The husband got curious at the bunch of rosaries and asked me if it was for sale. I told him “It’s free, but could you please say a prayer for the mothers and the babies inside please, this is an abortion clinic.” He was shocked, called his wife, she was ahead of him so he shouted, “honey this is an abortion clinic”. May be this is why the clinic gets mad at me. lol. She came back, they both took a rosary and promised to pray. I was there at the clinic so people would know human beings are killed and that the modern day gulags, Dachau and Ravenbrucks are among us even today. Not outside the city but right in the middle of the city.
  5. I handed out a brochure to a woman who came of the clinic with my usual explanation. She said “Oh no, am not doing abortion, am trying to have baby”. I tried to bring her to senses as how could babies get to live and get killed at the same place. She pulled her phone out and showed the picture of her 17 year old son who she had even when the father of the child left her. “thank you so much for doing this” she said. I encouraged her to find some other place for her prenatal care. She knew what it was to have a child when the father has abandoned, she showed me how important it is that someone is in front of abortion clinics to remind moms that they can do it. Hopefully she finds another prenatal provider.
  6. A Muslim woman stopped and asked me what I was doing. She stopped by looking at my nose ring thinking if I was a bengali or bangladeshi. I told her am neither. She thought I was an evangelist. I told her I give rosaries to people since a lot of them need a sign of God which gives them hope, I don’t force it on people and explained her about the place and the work. She sounded strong in her position against abortion and promised to pray. We had such a good conversation even though we were from different religion. I was there that day and found out no matter the difference of religion people can see the objective truth. May be someday sidewalk counseling will become a reality in India.
  7. A man who works for the city and maintains the sidewalk has been observing me for couple of days. He came up and asked me if I was evangelizing and what church I go to. I explained to him about the real purpose (may be I was evangelizing indirectly, lol, who knows) He asked for a rosary and promised to pray. He prayed with me for few minutes before leaving and encouraged me to continue my work. I was there showing people what this place is about, what’s going on inside and collecting prayers. Those who know the power of prayer can see what can happen and what is possible.

I haven’t had a turnaround. I do not know if a mother changed her heart and chose life for her baby. But each day that I am at this place people stop to thank me for what I do, remind me that they’re glad somebody is there, get to know that it’s a place where children are put to death, promise to pray for this evil to end etc. These are far more visible signs for me to be there and do what I have been doing.

Monsignor once said “at the Calvary Jesus was put to death, the disciples went back discouraged and consumed by fear and despair, but the reality is He rose again on the third day. This place is modern day Calvary. You cannot leave the babies die alone. You have to be there to show them that they’re being loved. they’re innocent and go to God but the mother who comes out, comes to know the truth of abortion and for her we’ll be a sign of God’s unconditional love. Since she has seen the truth about abortion, she’ll think about you the next time.We’re there not simply to save bodies but to save souls.”

If you’re someone in similar position as I am remember, when you’re there in front of the clinic you’re there for the babies as you would be for Jesus on the Cross in Calvary. The children will know that you were there for them, fought for them, prayed for them and no child should be left to die alone and unloved.

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Why did I write to 167 Bishops of India?

wrote to almost all the Bishops in India, including the office of the Nuncio. I had to write to all of them because there is just too much innocent blood flowing down the nation.

This August 10th marks the 47th anniversary of legalized abortion in India. So far, the total estimate of children killed by abortion since 1971 is unknown. But research published in 2017 shows that the total number of abortions performed in India for the year 2015 alone must be 15.6 million.

India legalized abortion on August 10th, 1971 through the Medical Termination of Pregnancy Act. But so far there is no single day of remembrance or observance of this horrible day. There are no vigils, protests, public prayer or marches of any sort. It’s just another day in India because India is busy “developing” herself as the fastest growing economy in the world as she stands tall on the pile of butchered bodies of our own babies. We literally practice ‘Narabali’ (human sacrifice) in order to achieve the status of a “Developed Nation”.

Every time we observe the Day of Prayer for the Protection of Unborn children and participate in the January 22 March for Life in the U.S we join with almost a million Americans who stand up for the unborn children killed by abortion in their country and my heart longs for those children murdered in India. Nobody mourns for our children killed by the legal abortion in our country. They are not remembered, their death easily erased off without a memorial. So I thought why not write to the Bishops requesting them to offer Mass and to encourage priests under their leadership to do so as well on August 10th?

With prayers and guidance from a few well-wishers, I embarked on this weird task. I wrote to almost 170 bishops in India pleading them to declare August 10th as “A Day of Prayer for Legal Protection of Unborn Children” and observe the day by offering Mass, praying for an end to abortion. This ‘Day of Remembrance’ will serve threefold purpose: to do penance for the mass murder of innocent children, to pray for the legal protection of unborn children and for the forgiveness and healing of those involved in it and to speak about it so that people will be encouraged to Defend Life.

Was it fruitful? Of course. Seven Bishops and a priest wrote back. They acknowledged the problem, appreciated the effort, and even took time to read the full letter, assuring that they would offer Mass on August 10th as well as encourage other priests to do the same. His Excellency Bishop Alex Vadakumthala Archbishop of Kannur encouraged this humble effort saying ‘it is a timely reminder’ for him to give priority to the pro-life ministry. He chose to speak on the topic of ‘Sanctity of Life’ in Shalom Mirror a live TV show the following week.

Archbishop Peter Machado, Archbishop of Bangalore, Fr. Pepin Gnana head of Family Commission in Archdiocese of Calcutta, Bishop Thomas Dabre, Bishop of Poona, His Excellency Mar Paul Alappatt, Bishop of Ramanathapuram, Bishop Chacko Thottumariackal, Bishop of Indore, His Excellency Mar George Njaralakatt, Archbishop of Telicherry and Archbishop Leo Cornelio, the Archbishop of Bhopal were kind enough to respond and assured me that they would offer Mass on August 10th.

Will this trivial effort change the dynamics? Well I can say yes without a slightest doubt because, we’re speaking about offering the Holy Sacrifice of Mass.

There is no stopping abortion without the Eucharist. Abortion is murder. It is on a scale today greater than all previous combined abortion murders in human history. Public demonstrations and statements of all kinds and sizes are all very important. They offer the opportunity for the pro-life Catholic to publicly identify before the world where he or she stands. We must put first things first to know and understand that behind every abortion is the devil, a murderer from the beginning. Our own human resources are entirely inadequate. Divine grace is absolutely necessary to stop abortion. All graces come through Jesus Christ in His human nature. The primary source of these graces is Holy Mass, Holy Communion and Holy Adoration of our Lord in His Real Presence.”

Fr John Hardon, S.J.

Read the full letter addressed to the Bishops here

This post was originally written for IYC

Letter to Bishops in India

Your Excellency,                                                                                                       May 30, 2018

Greetings!

I’m writing to you for a very urgent cause and on behalf of poor lay brothers, sisters and families under your apostolic leadership, who in the poverty of our being, need you in this gravest hour of our times.

My name is Carmel Nisha Pius Franco. I’m the daughter of The Archdiocese of Madras- Mylapore, Chennai involved in service of the weakest and vulnerable of our society – the unborn, the sick, the dying. Those whose voice is often unheard or silenced deliberately.

I’m a pro-life activist from a very humble background, traveling between U.S. and India, involved in the cause for life through writing, speaking, activism, counseling women near abortion clinics, helping pregnancy centers etc. However, it is not on my account that I write to Your Excellency but only in the worthy name of Jesus Christ and our beloved Mother to bring to your attention the urgent need of your people.

India is under attack. It has always been the focus of proponents of Eugenics and population control. While some of the problems highlighted by the propaganda machinery seem legitimate they often have hidden agendas and inhumane solutions to human problems. The prime example is the state-sponsored murder of unborn children as a solution to poverty reduction. Rather than eradicating poverty, it began to eradicate children by violent and extreme methods of abortion. Rather than finding a cure for genetic abnormalities, it began eliminating children with disabilities in the womb. Rather than enhancing the dignity of women, it turns women against their own children and families brainwashing them to think that motherhood is a burden and always an obstacle to empowerment. Rather than teaching families in the path of Responsible Parenthood (Humanae Vitae no.10) it pushes artificial contraceptives (they are mostly abortifacients) erasing the sacredness of  ‘marital act’ and God’s purpose for human sexuality. The prophecy of Blessed Pope Paul VI in his encyclical Humane Vitae is actually happening around the globe and especially in our country India.

These activities are not accidental occurrences or random events. They are well-planned actions of few people executed in a systematic fashion in India as well as other poor and developing nations. They push these policies through various UN organizations like WHO, UNICEF and UNFPA. They collaborate with huge non-profit corporates like Bill and Melinda Gates, Ford Foundation, George Soro’s Open Foundation, McArthur Foundation, Planned Parenthood, Marie Stopes International.  They influence, fund and push many of our government policies in collaboration with other local NGO’s. They create and spread false alarms and panic over country’s problems in order to gain blind acceptance or even celebration of evils like abortion, euthanasia, assisted suicide, embryo experimentation, cloning, egg freezing, surrogacy, sperm/egg harvesting, unethical artificial reproductive technologies, organ trafficking etc

16 Million Abortions in one year

While these policies encountered strong opposition in many western countries, it was quite easily adopted and implemented aggressively in India. One good example would be the legalization of Abortion in our country. August 10, 1971, India legalized abortion two years before the United States of America, one of the most liberal countries in the world. While there have always been some elements of Culture of Death in India- the normalization and celebration of evil through state sponsorship shows signs of dangerous and troubling times.

As Your Excellency might already know that there is an organized effort in India to lift the current ban on abortion from 20 weeks to 24 / 26 weeks and with a hidden agenda in the policy to even make it on-demand. Recently Passive Euthanasia was legalized in India. It laid down the foundation for active euthanasia. Many Indian research institutions have been conducting experiments on embryos. Organ trade has killed more people under the disguise of ‘brain dead’. Our children are sexualized through government’s RKSK program and are taught to ask for contraceptives and abortion without parental knowledge and consent. With the widespread prevalence of IVF clinics, children formed outside the womb are discarded at an enormous rate. Human life and dignity are targeted and exploited both inside and outside the womb in our country.

A recent research study conducted by Guttmacher Institute and IIPS institute in Mumbai found that almost 16 million abortions were performed in India in 2015. 16 million innocent children murdered in just one year. We do not know yet how many lives are lost to abortion since 1971 or how many are killed through euthanasia or how many embryos are left to die or purposely killed by selective reduction in the sprawling IVF clinics of our country.

This holocaust compels me to beg your attention. Your Excellency, we must do something. We cannot say ‘I do not know, am I my brother’s keeper’ (Pope John Paul II, Evangelium Vitae no.08)

In my capacity of working with C-FAM (the primary organization that defends life, Holy See and the family at United Nations), being trained by Monsignor Dr. Philip Reilly (the founder and director of Helpers of God’s Precious Infants who has traveled to 6 continents and have worked with hundreds of Bishops in U.S, Europe and elsewhere in conducting powerful prolife witness), being a coworker with Sisters of Life-( a contemplative active religious community whose charism is the protection and enhancement of the sacredness of every human life), most importantly in my capacity of working to build a culture of life in India, I see and realize from my experience that the countries/communities that are vigorously prolife when Catholics and their Catholic Bishops led the charge. A clear example of this can be seen in America where Bishops are unapologetically Pro-life and encourage priests and people to do likewise. They conduct prayer vigils outside abortion clinics, they support local projects that help women in crisis pregnancy, they head healing retreats for men and women hurt by abortion, they instruct people on crucial decisions like end of life care. Among the pro-life apostolate, the most important act of them is having a National day of remembrance with the offering of the Holy Sacrifice of Mass for the anniversary of the legalization of abortion in their country. This helped me as a Catholic to bring to my attention and provides an opportunity to speak against the evil and strike a conversation with the faithful on its deadly effects.

Mass and National Day of Remembrance for the Unborn

As our beloved Pope St. John Paul II reminds us in Evangelium Vitae (no.96-100), we are called to defend life and build a culture of life through concrete measures all of which begins with the formation of conscience and the renewal of this culture. Growing up under the protection of our Catholic tradition, on solemn days of remembrance, I always had pondered about the cause. It gave me and many of fellow brothers and sisters an opportunity to remember, to pray and commit ourselves to the cause. Your Excellency, with the tragedy of abortion and evils of the culture of death happening in our midst, we should have a ‘Day of Remembrance for the unborn children killed by legalized abortion in India’. It should be on August 10th the anniversary of legal abortion in the country (August 10, 1973). On this day of solemn remembrance, Mass should be offered across the dioceses for the reparation of grave sins committed against human life and the dignity of the human person through abortion in our country.

As Pope John Paul II says: ‘whoever attacks human life, in some way attacks God himself.’ It is only fitting that these crimes which are orchestrated by the power of the evil one can only be dealt with the most supernatural weapon at our disposal- The Eucharist. ‘Behind every murder is the evil one’ (Evangelium Vitae 08) and so is behind every abortion the power of evil displayed. Fr. John Harden (Servant of God) said ‘There is no stopping of Abortion without the Eucharist’.

Remembering the day of the legalization of Abortion

When human life is not respected inside the womb, it will not be treated with dignity and reverence outside the womb. It is meaningless to try and solve other problems and human rights abuses of people without addressing the issue of abortion. “If we accept that a Mother can kill her own child, what is left for us to kill each other?” – St. Teresa of Calcutta Legalization of murder, justification of this intrinsically evil act and celebration of this human sacrifice marks with clarity the destruction of the society. The legalization of abortion opened the doors for Euthanasia and other dangerous evils Ever since the legalization of abortion all evil that was once unthinkable became justifiable.

Your Excellency! I beg you, we must act now and act with diligence. It is already too late.

Abortion is happening in Christian homes, in Catholic households in India. Your Excellency must have encountered this in your ministry to God’s people in your respective diocese. But we are beyond abortion at this stage. Catholic couples are taking refuge to abortifacients, unethical artificial reproductive technologies and becoming complicit in the attack against human life. Manipulating embryos as a commodity to be designed, ordered and purchased to one’s own liking. Elders are deserted, sick are treated as a burden and on the mask of false compassion put to death.

Dearest father, am sure you would agree with me that before doing any programs or campaigns in dealing with this ‘Culture of Death’ in India first of all, we need the help of God. Because these are not simply social evils as the secular world looks at them. These are not ‘developmental issues’ or ‘political issues’ it is most of all a spiritual battle. The battle between good and evil. We need the help of God. With the Mass on the Day of remembrance, we would have recourse to God, reparation of sins and reaching the conscience of people.

“A great prayer for life is urgently needed, a prayer which will rise up throughout the world. Through special initiatives and in daily prayer, may an impassioned plea rise to God, the Creator and lover of life, from every Christian community, from every group and association, from every family and from the heart of every believer.” – Pope Saint John Paul II, Evangelium Vitae, no. 100* 

I beg Your Excellency for the sake of your people and on behalf of the 400 million innocent unborn children murdered so far in our Indian soil through abortion to offer in your diocese Solemn Mass on August 10th remembering the mass murder of unborn children and making it as a day of prayer for the legal protection of unborn children..

I have attached some supporting documents that might help in this special task along with my contact information. I make myself available at your service to help parishes under your care in any way I can through all possible means in this task if Your Excellency wishes and permits.

Also, I wish to acknowledge the fact of my unworthiness. I dared to approach you only as a daughter would approach her father in times of anguish and need, for the sake of and on behalf of our people who are unable to speak for themselves and whose silent screams should not be left unheard. I would like to thank Your Excellency for the time and submit hopefully to Your grace and God’s providence.

 

Respectfully Yours in Christ,

Carmel Nisha Pius Franco

Cradle of Love – Remembering Brave Moms on Mother’s Day

Mother’s day is celebrated across cultures in some way or the other. Though highly commercialized, our culture seems to be in need of this day as it might be the only occasion for some moms to hear from their children. While families and organizations have their own way of celebrating this day, we do it through hosting ‘Cradle of Love’ in our parish.

Newbies to the prolife movement (including myself) often ask these questions: What can I do? What can I do about this abortion holocaust? What can I do to stop abortion? What can a single person do about such a massive evil? If I were to answer them, I would ask them to begin with ‘The Cradle of Love’ project in their community.

Why Cradle of Love? 

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Cradle of Love (2016)

Cradle of Love is an easy and fun project which people from all walks of life can do. It is very powerful since it creates a direct impact in the community, by supporting crisis pregnancy centers (CPC) which help women vulnerable to abortion. CPC’s provide life-affirming options to pregnant women. They often help with more than just counseling or ultrasound services. CPC helps mothers with schooling, rent, shelter, medical and legal assistance and also adoption. Often, they continue to support mothers even after pregnancy. Unlike abortion centers, the services offered in CPCs are completely free in most cases.

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Cradle of Love (2017)- India. The proceeds of which went to Missionaries of Charity which serve children deserted by parents on accounts of disability 

How it’s done?

A Cradle/crib is decorated and set up in front of the Church or a prominent place for people to see. Cradle of Love contacts the nearest CPC to aks what items they’re in need of at that particular moment.  Tags containing the names of the required items like diapers, baby wipes, reusable maternity items, toiletries, baby clothes are tied to the decorated cradle for people to take. People are informed about the event through announcement or bulletin to take the tags that they can afford and bring back the items the following week.

The items are handed over to CPC exactly as given by the community. People often take extra care to show their love and how much they care through attractive packages and little notes for the pregnant mother.

Recourse to conscience through beauty

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Cradle of Love (2018)

The Cradle of Love accomplishes several things. It reminds people in the most gentle and beautiful manner of their duty towards their neighbor (the pregnant mother vulnerable to abortion). It gives parents the chance to instruct their children  about the issue of abortion. It shows women that they’re loved and not simply judged, and, it gives people a chance to make a direct impact and be an active participant in the prolife movement.

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Sisters of Life receiving the items collected through Cradle of Love 

The beauty of Cradle of Love appeals to the conscience of the community in a powerful and positive manner. Having to host this project doesn’t cost a lot except for few dollars for balloons and ribbons. Oh yes! The crib doesn’t count because we always get them for free from craigslist and once the event is done even the crib goes to a loving home for the new baby. If setting up a crib seems like a challenge then go for a bassinet over a table. There’s lots of room to be creative and to make it interesting. You could do it on your own or with a friend or with a group.

Having Cradle of Love on Mother’s Day helps us to be in solidarity with mothers in difficult situation. It also appreciates mothers who made the brave choice to give life amidst the most difficult circumstances. Even though it might seem small and simple, it creates a ripple effect in the community. It is also counter cultural. When governments and institutions are presenting women with abortion as a quick fix to their hardship, they only magnify and multiple the problems. By offering our support, we send a message to the world that women do not have to kill their children to achieve their dreams.


This blog was originally written for IYC

 

 

Representing India at March for Life 2018

What is the use of living in US and not participating in March for Life? What’s the point of being an Indian and not representing India at this event? Especially when President Trump has reinstated Mexico City Policy stopping US tax payer funded abortions abroad including India. So off we drove to Washington D.C with our sign to thank Trump Administration or at least to let people know about it and show our gratitude. Come on! more than 40 -60 million U.S. dollars spent annually on abortion in India so far will be redirected from now on to life affirming projects and how can we not thank the Trump administration for this? especially when Indian pro choice media is busy trashing President (#globalgagrule)?

So glad the message was well received by people. We got a handful of them stop us and ask more details about the Mexico City Policy and how it affected India. A couple of them took pictures and it caught the eye of few media as well. Most of all people promised us with prayers for an end to the Culture of Death in India.

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Because the reality that 16 million innocent children were killed in one year in India is something that should give us sleepless nights. The numbers are huge, the tragedy is monstrous, there’s too much involved and what a singe person can do? this is the question many people ask me. Yes, it is huge, it is filthy big, it is monstrous but what a single person can do depends upon the person’s conviction to proclaim the truth and to defend life and one’s faith in God.

While almost a million Americans were marching in D.C remembering the victims of abortion holocaust and the day it was legalized in their country we marched for the babies in America by abortion as well as the babies killed in India through same way with American taxpayer money. Trust me! we got thousands of them giving thumbs up and hundreds quite surprised at our post. At the end of the day so many of these people came to know about the abortion holocaust happening in India, with and without American funds and gained solidarity in standing up for life.

Here are few humble mentions :

https://pjmedia.com/trending/15-creative-signs-that-made-the-march-for-life-stand-out/

http://www.breitbart.com/big-government/2018/01/20/photos-the-best-signs-at-the-45th-annual-march-for-life/

https://pjmedia.com/trending/women-at-march-for-life-giving-birth-not-abortion-truly-empowers-women/

March for Life 2018 – one of the unforgettable experience.  Pray, wish and hope for such a movement in India to defend our unborn Indians. Shame on us Indians that we go about eating drinking and partying as our unborn brothers and sisters are killed in India in the name of population control and development. But this shall not remain the same. It shall change, when you and me begin to do what we can do.

“. . . we are facing an enormous and dramatic clash between good and evil, death and life, the “culture of death” and the “culture of life”. We find ourselves not only faced with but necessarily in the midst of this conflict: we are all involved and we all share in it, with the inescapable responsibility of choosing to be unconditionally pro-life.” (Evangelium Vitae

 

Indians at March for Life 2017

3 million Indians live in America. But not a single unified Prolife representation. My eyes constantly scanned the crowd to see if we could get hold of Indians and if somebody will get hold of us. But it was a shock to me when we learned that more than 50% of Indians who live in America are Democrats. And after a while I thought to myself, with less than 5% of catholic population in India and radical Hinduism running the government how could reality be different. After all Democrats advocated for slavery and segregation and have strong affiliation with racist ideology and so do upper caste hindus who established ‘Eugenic Clinics’ in India and whose families have the money and opportunity to come to America and finance radical Hindutva groups back in homeland. We finally spotted two faces that resembled of Indian origin but they were too shy to stop for a chat or to shake hands. Nevertheless we went parading the streets with our banner to show the few who gave thumbs up and smiles, encouraging our humble effort to represent Indians at the great March for Life.

 

The kindness showed by fellow Americans will not let you rest after the March is over so you can get back to the comfort of the heated cozy indoors. img_2730When you see pregnant women, babies, old people with walkers, people in wheel chair marching on a freezing windy day, you are moved to do more. This is the America which India never got to know. This is the America the liberal Indian media would never want the ordinary Indian to know. The America which defends life, which gives voice for the voiceless. And so this is exactly what we wanted our people back in India to know.
People estimated the crowd to be more than 700,000. And to see such a huge crowd march without any tension, without any violence, without a single curse word is what I feel is the mark of a changing Culture. And this is what we need in India. As we marched, looking at the enthusiasm of people, the chanting, the signs, the energy, the freedom, the spirit our hearts longed to experience the same in the homeland. Our people are being killed, killed in massive numbers. Our people are being exploited and betrayed. Our people need to wake up and get to work.

March for Life marks the infamous day of Jan 22,1973 when the Supreme Court of United States legalized the killing of innocent children in their mother’s womb through the deception, lie and manipulation of the case called Roe V Wade. However the truth is that this woman Roe never aborted her child. But her case opened the floodgates of abortion in America killing more than 50 million children in America alone since 1973. But… India legalized abortion 2 years before America and since then according to the IPPF reports 4-6 million abortions are performed every year in India. So what’s the fertility level and Fertility Replacement Level of the country? Less than 2.3 . Which means India is dying.

6 million abortions and 4 million sterilization per year, including  mifeprestone in family planning program, the media’s betrayal, the dark forgotten past of legalizing abortion and above all this, trying to extend legal abortion date beyond fetal viability and bringing in active euthanasia and unregulated sex education  is simply evil beyond comprehension. And we don’t March, no candlelight vigils, no prayers, no prolife legislation, nothing. The Church is silent, the NGO’s active in promoting death, the culture is changing and people are being killed. Every day- every minute. When are we going to wake up?

However, great things happen from humble beginning. And may be this March is one such milestone. We had good conversation with friends and family in India, conversations about abortion and life which usually doesn’t happen, friends wondering what are we into, and strangers sharing posts and questioning about abortion. May be 2018 would be different, with increased sense of awareness of Culture of death and reverence to Life in India.

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Power of a Picture

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So posted this picture in Instagram and guess what????

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Pro Life challenge- INDIA

When I talk to people in India about Pro Life issues, I am often caught up in a whirlpool of confusion. They think the west is the worse. Only western women drink and hook up and do abortions. Excuse me. There’s something worse happening in our Motherland.Yes, abortions are happening in India in massive scale. 6.4 million abortion in a year. Evidence? Here you go, from the devil’s mouth :

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and massive ethnic cleansing is also happening with the government’s cooperation. How ridiculous am I to say that? Because I have evidence. 4 million sterilization and 5 million IUD insertions done by government and it’s mentioned as “Performance” in the Health Management Information System website of Ministry of Health and Family Welfare Government of India. here you go:

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not my own statistics, not my own numbers. From the enemy’s den. What’s happening to my country? Who are behind this? Why are they doing this to my people? After 100 years of British colonization is there another 70 years of American cultural imperialism imposed over my people? Is this about Eugenics? Look at the CEO’s of the top companies and look at the massive population control propaganda, any link?

12829510_10153293696530974_480340900011244634_o And amidst all this, my people don’t know the concept of “Pro Life”. They know Breaking Bad, 50 shades of grey, they seem to follow American Idol, Golden Globe awards, they seem to know about Ellen and Big Bang Theory, Wife Swap, Modern Family, they watch 24, confession but they are completely unaware of March for Life , David Daleiden , Planned Parenthood. Eugenics? Sorry they have not even heard of the word before, Genocide? Nope, sorry-they need a seminar on this, Ok talk about China’s one child policy, because they are India’s neighboring country with troubled relationship? Still no. Fine, how about the Emergency period of India declared in 1970’s, it’s our history, the history of the nation? still NO.

The Indians young and old are immersed in the rush to finish school, get a job, repay loan and buy a house. Once they buy a house take a picture and post in facebook to inform others of their status quo and seeing this ten others will run around to buy a better house and post it in facebook. And by this time another 4 million children will be aborted and 5 million women used as experiment subjects for massive contraception test for United States. We have an urgent need to capture the attention of this ever rushing population to speak for their innocent neighbors slaughtered in the womb. There’s a huge cultural gap. While the Pro Choice ideals cross countries and barriers and found its place in India Pro-Life issues has no voice. The Media blacked out everything. No coverage for March for Life, No coverage for Planned Parenthood Baby Parts scandal. So when I say Pro Life, they stare at me and wonder what on earth am I talking about. To the little known friends I beg to get involved in any small way they can, as simple as posting in fb, make videos, at least share stuff, I requested great Prolife leaders to speak on behalf of India, wrote to pro life media,  requested priests in India to speak out but they weren’t ready either.

So I took things in my hand. I will communicate to my people in the way they can understand. No more western images, western quotes, western ideology. We have Mother Teresa and Mahatma Gandhi the two most terrifying Pro Life leaders who are Pro Life without exceptions and have been outspoken about abortion and dignity of human life, I have my own camera,saree and baby models. I’ll use social media to present the truth and help them connect the dots, and the Almighty will use them to convert hearts.

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Instagram is exploding with reactions, conversations and conversion and am having quite a bit of fun sitting and witnessing what it means to “Be still and know that I am God.” Anyone who know 5 loaves and two fish parable knows that nothing is too small or too weak to be used for the greater glory of God. I began with Mr.M as a feeble indian woman reluctant to talk to people and now I  get cursed at least twice a day for speaking truth and keep presenting them with LOVE. #StopabortioninIndia ! Jai Hind!

Without God

When I began Sidewalk Counseling I was perplexed by the fact on how can one approach women entering the abortion facility. The order goes something like this if I can recall from my training with Mr.M : Woman, abortion, baby, God i.e Talk about her- her issue,fear, concerns and the situation forcing her into the abortion center, then talk about the effects of abortion- physical, mental, emotional and relational then move on to talk about the baby- giving the scientific data about the child in the womb. Like, the developmental milestones. finally, talk about God. I was amused about the fact that one can  talk about God to a random stranger. I am dumb, after all it’s America. But what’s the connection between God and abortion? Can one try to be pro life without God? Can there be an end to abortion without God? For the matter of fact, will there be an end to euthanasia or any kind of violence without God? Can someone make sense without God? The answer is ‘NO’. It’s as simple as it sounds. Sorry folks!

You can try to use science at sidewalk, you can use psychoanalysis at sidewalk, you can use highly complicated and time tested methodologies to do good effectively and stop abortion but at the end of the day nothing works as much as Prayer, sacrifice, Mass or Eucharist to end abortion. I am very arrogant in presenting this truth because abortion is not a product of failed social system or political agenda but it is the result of evil. It might be hard to digest this fact and I will not be surprised about that considering the status of our secular society. It’s funny to see people discussing empirical methods and strategies to do sidewalk counseling, well they are doing good but remember the old verse : The horse is prepared for the day of battle, But victory belongs to the LORD.- Proverbs:21:31 . Its very sensical specially when you see how God chose the most unlikely: the shepherd to fight a giant, the stammerer to lead people to promised land, the infertile to give children as many as stars, the widow, the  persecutor, the fishermen, the tax collector. Ordinary men for extraordinary tasks. Sometimes even broken men for mind blowing jobs. Yet people think they can end abortion without God, only with the help of science, logic and law. It’s nothing but foolishness.

People can try and do good but they cannot end abortion. A good no. of catholic organizations do not want to keep up neither their catholic identity nor bring God in their Sidewalk counseling approaches. The reason behind this might sound reasonable at first i.e; not to turn off people by speaking about God. However a grave mistake is committed here of trying to save the body and simply not care about the soul. That’s simply not a ‘save’ at all.

In training with Sister. Dorothy who has been in the ministry of Sidewalk Counseling for more than 20 years I was introduced to a different strategy. Monstrance and IncenseShe tries to talk about God as soon as she can. No avoiding God, No keeping God for last. This makes much sense because The Servant of God Fr. John Hardon once said: “There’s no stopping Abortion without The Eucharist.”  Many priests in the Pro-life mission like Fr. Frank Pavone, Fr. Imbarrato have explained the reason behind this. Eucharist is Christ giving his body and blood for mankind out of love for ‘other’ and abortion is the opposite: taking the life of the other for oneself. It uses the same phrase used in Holy Sacrifice of the Mass: ‘This is my Body’. Abortion is a sacrilege, a mockery at God. And how one can expect to combat this with techniques of Psychology and Biology? Will people stop committing abortion just by showing the videos of fetus inside the womb happily sucking the thumb? No.

Cardinal O’Connor said it perfectly: “The Culture of Death will be converted to Culture of Life…only by the spiritual life of those created in the image and likeness of God”. And for this reason The Sister’s of Life whose charism is to defend the sanctity of human life encourage their co-workers to deeper spiritual life with frequent communion, and close touch with sacraments. Especially Sacrament of Reconciliation and Holy Eucharist. Without Mass, Rosary and Sacraments one cannot combat the evil of Culture of Death even if one is a world renowned Psychotherapist. I can bet my life on this.

If you are involved in active Pro-Life ministry like Sidewalk Counseling or Praying in front of clinics or volunteering in any least way to promote culture of life, then you need a very deep spiritual life. The struggle is much greater and the enemy much more schematic than you can ever imagine. Especially with things like Satanism and ritualistic abortion it’s humanly impossible to fight abortion by oneself. We are in need of grace, extraordinary grace, to combat the culture of death.

We had a wonderful opportunity to be with Sisters of Life this weekend to revive our soul to continue the battle for the next one year. I wish Catholics all over world involved in pro-life ministry had the opportunity that I had. Fr.John Hardon used to say : Remember even by simply being present before the abortion clinic after the reception of Sacraments opens the door to graces which works in its own ways for the conversion of souls. Encourage fellow catholics about this to combat the Culture of Death. We have to speak to our fellow Catholics about being channels of grace for those who are in need of them especially those who follow culture of death. Mother Angelica said: “If Catholics were truly Catholic, the world would change overnight.” Being silent and minding one’s own business does not help. The least people can do is hurt our egos by mocking us, making fun or talk behind our back and the most they can do is harm the body. None can touch the soul which is labors for God alone. Ultimately it’s the soul which is going to face the judgement and go to heaven. Not the image, status, vainglory. As Christians we are called to go out of our way to do good like the Good Samaritan. As Pope St. John Paul II said Let’s not be satisfied with mediocrity.

“At the time he was betrayed and entered willingly into his Passion, he took bread and, giving thanks, broke it, and gave it to his disciples, saying: TAKE THIS, ALL OF YOU, AND EAT OF IT: FOR THIS IS MY BODY WHICH WILL BE GIVEN UP FOR YOU.”

The Greatness of Smallness

I have been doing Sidewalk counseling for the past eight months and I’ve never had what they call ‘a save’. I’ve never encountered drama, I’ve never been heroic, I’ve never had any eye-opening experience. I’ve never spoken to any women other than one single mother who eventually gave in to despair and went ahead with the abortion. I stand there among awesome people who work for God tirelessly saving a soul a week from abortion. Like Mr. M. Sometimes it’s disheartening. But that’s the work of devil. However I cannot say I’ve never really made an impact.

A lot of times I used to feel ashamed of looking at the sub-normal level of my role at the sidewalk and wonder what in the world am I doing here, doing nothing. I was always afraid of being insignificant and not making a difference, of not just failing but being average. I always felt uneasy with my presumption of people’s expectations of how I would be at the Sidewalk. I had thoughts about people mocking at me to consider it was ridiculous for me to think of becoming a Sidewalk Counselor.  If you have had moments as these better don’t let them stop you from standing up for the unborn, the dying, the terminally ill, the abused or the vulnerable; because, we share something fascinating and you will understand the greatness of smallness by the end of this post.

Everyone must have had an idea about the jewish holocaust. The monstrosity of evil couldn’t triumph over good and it was the great time of sanctity, sainthood and stout heartedness. Saints made best use of this time to show their love for God and neighbor. But among the 2579 catholic clergymen who were imprisoned in Dachau concentration camp Fr. Karl Leisner wants to tell us something very profound.

Dachau concentration camp was the result of deep hatred Nazi’s had towards the Church and a strong evidence that World War II was not a political event but a spiritual one. I would love to look at your face when I tell you that there was Holy Sacrifice of Mass and secret ordinations happening in the middle of a concentration camp among all the intensity of agony. Smuggling flowers for the altar and passing secret messages of prayer times, having a person to look out while singing hymns and breaking bread. Satan would have felt a terrible blow right on the face while looking at people making vestments secretly managing to find altar cloths, rusted old table and bringing hosts. Everything at the cost of immediate death or torture. How on earth would someone smuggle flowers for Mass when they knew they would be shot? isn’t that small thing look great now? Letting go of one’s life while picking flowers for Holy Mass where Christ would be present in body, blood,soul and divinity for others amidst the horrors unleashed by evil forces. And now it makes sense when St. John of the Cross said: At the end of the day we will be judged on love alone”.

In the middle of the institutionalized and widely accepted and celebrated human torture was a day of complete magnificence in Dachau. A secret ordination for Fr. Karl Leisner. A taste of heaven in hell. Fr.Karl was suffering from tuberculosis while he was in camp and lost hope of being ordained. During this time  Msgr. Gabriel Piquet, Bishop of Clermont-Ferrand in France was transferred from the Natzweiler concentration camp in Alsace to Dachau. He worked along with Cardinal Faulhaber and the Bishop of Muenster and the arrangements for ordination began. Father Karl celebrated his first Mass on Dec. 26 — the feast of St. Stephen the Martyr, but it was the only Mass he would ever celebrate. He died in a sanatorium in few months after Dachau was liberated. Now does this one Mass look small, tiny, meager or trivial or does it look great and glorious? Fr. Karl was beatified by Pope St. John Paul II. How about that !                                                                          

We have to remember that “Great things are done by a series of small things brought together.” – vincent van gogh. We don’t have to be or become great. The essence is in littleness. The only third woman b8890a28dc0a2139138607cc656d104eto become the Doctor of the Church revolutionized spirituality with this concept. Because the perspective of God is so different from the way we see and measure things. While organizations can go flurry over how many saves they had, how many turnarounds they achieved only God can see how much love you carry in your heart to try and do something for these little ones. While numbers serve great purpose and can be used to encourage people, no one should lose spirit because they couldn’t make statistics. let me tell you that sometimes the littlest  things take up the most room in your heart. Winnie the Pooh didn’t say it but St. Therese of Lisieux did. God can see through you and again sorry but i’ll have to quote her again: “You know well enough that Our Lord does not look so much at the greatness of our actions, nor even at their difficulty, but at the love with which we do them.” -Saint Therese of Lisieux

So never be afraid to be little, do little, it is the Love that matters most. So next time you see or hear someone being low in spirits because their actions weren’t supposedly great or dramatic or the outcome of their efforts weren’t huge or brilliant or that no woman changed her mind from abortion or no child was saved or no worker left the abortion clinic or no souls converted tell them that still it looks great in sight of God. Because even we adults would naturally be carried away by how a child shows it’s love and there’s no doubt God will be pleased by our little effort and who knows He might be going around saying “oh look what my child did today!” in a proud fashion of a father and His grace will make impossible things possible. The more we are little the more God can work through us. Because at the end of the day we will be judged on love alone.

And Jesus called a little child to him, and set him in the middle of them,… – Mathew:18