Picture 5 – Rape

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Most of them I meet at sidewalk and online come up with this argument regarding Abortion: So what if the woman was raped? Should she be forced to carry the ‘rape child’? She will have to live the trauma of rape every time seeing the child and She wasn’t ready for it. My question to them mostly starts like this:

  1. Did the child rape? Wasn’t the child victim as the mother ?
  2. How does punishing the child bring justice and healing to the woman?
  3. If the child is robbed of it’s dignity because of being conceived in rape how can then we expect others in society to treat the women who was raped with dignity?

You cannot restore the dignity of woman who was traumatized by rape without accepting the child conceived in the same situation, victimized just as her, most of the time scape goated  in the place of rapist to be violently torn from womb and negated of a chance to live. Mahatma Gandhi advocates bringing up the child conceived out of infidelity because hurting the child will never heal anyone nor appease her anger and never will unrape her. Her healing depends on her acceptance of the child. If not convinced meet Rebecca Keisling of Save the 1.

And this is how instagram community responds:

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Abortion- global view

Status of Abortion in countries around the globe

Abortion is legal in all but 4 countries around the world i.e; 191 countries out of 195 allow abortion for one or other reason and the common reason is to save the life and health of the mother. So do you think there’s a change in the evolution of ‘Motherhood’ around centuries? When fear creeps in…love is lost.

use ctrl+f keys to search the country you are specifically interested in or follow the alphabetical order for convenience. For a detailed list of status of abortion in case of rape, in case of babies with disabilities, in case of socio-economic conditions and much more go to : https://goo.gl/fPXsJI

  1. Afghanistan (Kabul) (AS) ———————————————-YES
  2. Albania (Tirane) (EU)———————–– ————————-YES
  3. Algeria (Algiers) (AF)————————————————-YES
  4. Andorra (Andorra la Vella) (EU)—————————————–YES
  5. Angola (Luanda) (AF)————————————————YES
  6. Antigua and Barbuda (St. John’s) (NA)————————————YES
  7. Argentina (Buenos Aires) (SA)——————————————YES
  8. Armenia (Yerevan) (EU)————————————————YES
  9. Australia (Canberra) (AU)———————————————YES
  10. Austria (Vienna) (EU)————————————————-YES
  11. Azerbaijan (Baku) (AS)————————————————YES
  12. Bahamas (Nassau) (NA)———————————————–YES
  13. Bahrain (Manama) (AS)————————————————YES
  14. Bangladesh (Dhaka) (AS)———————————————–YES
  15. Barbados (Bridgetown) (NA)——————————————–YES
  16. Belarus (Minsk) (EU)————————————————–YES
  17. Belgium (Brussels) (EU)————————————————YES
  18. Belize (Belmopan) (NA)————————————————YES
  19. Benin (Porto-Novo) (AF)———————————————–YES
  20. Bhutan (Thimphu) (AS)————————————————YES
  21. Bolivia (Sucre) (SA)—————————————————YES
  22. Bosnia and Herzegovina (Sarajevo) (EU)———————————-YES
  23. Botswana (Gaborone) (AF)———————————————-YES
  24. Brazil (Brasilia) (SA)—————————————————YES
  25. Brunei (Bandar Seri Begawan) (AS)—————————————YES
  26. Bulgaria (Sofia) (EU)————————————————–YES
  27. Burkina Faso (Ouagadougou) (AF)—————————————-YES
  28. Burma/Myanmar (Nay Pyi Taw) (AS)————————————-YES
  29. Burundi (Bujumbura) (AF)———————————————-YES
  30. Cambodia (Phnom Penh) (AS)——————————————-YES
  31. Cameroon (Yaounde) (AF)———————————————-YES
  32. Canada (Ottawa) (NA)————————————————-YES
  33. Cape Verde (Praia) (EU – Portugal)—————————————YES
  34. Central African Republic (Bangui) (AF)———————————–YES
  35. Chad (N’Djamena) (AF)————————————————YES
  36. Chile (Santiago) (SA)—————————————————NO
  37. China (Beijing) (AS)—————————————————YES
  38. Colombia (Bogota) (SA)————————————————YES
  39. Comoros (Moroni) (AF)————————————————YES
  40. Congo (Brazzaville) (AF)———————————————–YES
  41. Congo, Democratic Republic of (Kinshasa) (AF)—————————-YES
  42. Costa Rica (San Jose) (NA)———————————————-YES
  43. Cote d’Ivoire/Ivory Coast (Yamoussoukro) (AF)—————————–YES
  44. Croatia (Zagreb) (EU)————————————————–YES
  45. Cuba (Havana) (NA)—————————————————YES
  46. Cyprus (Nicosia) (AS) and/or (EU)—————————————-YES
  47. Czech Republic (Prague) (EU)——————————————-YES
  48. Denmark (Copenhagen) (EU)——————————————–YES
  49. Djibouti (Djibouti) (AF)————————————————YES
  50. Dominica (Roseau) (NA)———————————————–YES
  51. Dominican Republic (Santo Domingo) (NA)——————————-YES
  52. East Timor (Dili) (AS)————————————————-YES
  53. Ecuador (Quito) (SA)————————————————–YES
  54. Egypt (Cairo) (AF)—————————————————-YES
  55. El Salvador (San Salvador) (NA)——————————————NO
  56. Equatorial Guinea (Malabo) (AF)—————————————-YES
  57. Eritrea (Asmara) (AF)————————————————-YES
  58. Estonia (Tallinn) (EU)————————————————-YES
  59. Ethiopia (Addis Ababa) (AF)——————————————–YES
  60. Fiji (Suva) (AU – Oceania)———————————————–YES
  61. Finland (Helsinki) (EU)————————————————YES
  62. France (Paris) (EU)—————————————————-YES
  63. Gabon (Libreville) (AF)————————————————-YES
  64. Gambia (Banjul) (AF)————————————————–YES
  65. Georgia (Tbilisi) (EU)————————————————–YES
  66. Germany (Berlin) (EU)————————————————-YES
  67. Ghana (Accra) (AF)—————————————————-YES
  68. Greece (Athens) (EU)————————————————–YES
  69. Grenada (St. George’s) (NA)———————————————YES
  70. Guatemala (Guatemala City) (NA)—————————————-YES
  71. Guinea (Conakry) (AF)————————————————-YES
  72. Guinea-Bissau (Bissau) (AF)——————————————–YES
  73. Guyana (Georgetown) (SA)———————————————-YES
  74. Haiti (Port-au-Prince) (NA)———————————————YES
  75. Honduras (Tegucigalpa) (NA)——————————————-YES
  76. Hungary (Budapest) (EU)———————————————–YES
  77. Iceland (Reykjavik) (EU)————————————————YES
  78. India (New Delhi) (AS)————————————————-YES
  79. Indonesia (Jakarta) (AS)———————————————–YES
  80. Iran (Tehran) (AS)—————————————————-YES
  81. Iraq (Baghdad) (AS)—————————————————YES
  82. Ireland (Dublin) (EU)————————————————–YES
  83. Israel (Jerusalem) (AS)————————————————-YES
  84. Italy (Rome) (EU)—————————————————–YES
  85. Jamaica (Kingston) (NA)———————————————–YES
  86. Japan (Tokyo) (AS)—————————————————-YES
  87. Jordan (Amman) (AS)————————————————–YES
  88. Kazakhstan (Astana) (AS)———————————————-YES
  89. Kenya (Nairobi) (AF)————————————————–YES
  90. Kiribati (South Tarawa) (AU – Oceania)————————————YES
  91. Korea, North (Pyongyang) (AS)——————————————YES
  92. Korea, South (Seoul) (AS)———————————————-YES
  93. Kuwait (Kuwait City) (AS)———————————————–YES
  94. Kyrgyzstan (Bishkek) (AS)———————————————-YES
  95. Laos (Vientiane) (AS)————————————————–YES
  96. Latvia (Riga) (EU)—————————————————-YES
  97. Lebanon (Beirut) (AS)————————————————-YES
  98. Lesotho (Maseru) (AF)————————————————YES
  99. Liberia (Monrovia) (AF)————————————————YES
  100. Libya (Tripoli) (AF)—————————————————-YES
  101. Liechtenstein (Vaduz) (EU)———————————————YES
  102. Lithuania (Vilnius) (EU)————————————————YES
  103. Luxembourg (Luxembourg) (EU)—————————————–YES
  104. Macedonia (Skopje) (EU)———————————————–YES
  105. Madagascar (Antananarivo) (AF)—————————————–YES
  106. Malawi (Lilongwe) (AF)————————————————YES
  107. Malaysia (Kuala Lumpur) (AS)——————————————-YES
  108. Maldives (Male) (AS)————————————————–YES
  109. Mali (Bamako) (AF)—————————————————YES
  110. Malta (Valletta) (EU)—————————————————NO
  111. Marshall Islands (Majuro) (AU – Oceania)———————————-YES
  112. Mauritania (Nouakchott) (AF)——————————————-YES
  113. Mauritius (Port Louis) (AF)———————————————YES
  114. Mexico (Mexico City) (NA)———————————————-YES
  115. Micronesia (Palikir) (AU – Oceania)—————————————YES
  116. Moldova (Chisinau) (EU)———————————————–YES
  117. Monaco (Monaco) (EU)————————————————YES
  118. Mongolia (Ulan Bator) (AS)———————————————YES
  119. Montenegro (Podgorica) (EU)——————————————-YES
  120. Morocco (Rabat) (AF) (including Western Sahara)————————–YES
  121. Mozambique (Maputo) (AF)——————————————–YES
  122. Namibia (Windhoek) (AF)———————————————-YES
  123. Nauru (no official capital) (AU – Oceania)———————————–YES
  124. Nepal (Kathmandu) (AS)———————————————–YES
  125. Netherlands (Amsterdam, The Hague) (EU)———————————YES
  126. New Zealand (Wellington) (AU)——————————————YES
  127. Nicaragua (Managua) (NA)———————————————YES
  128. Niger (Niamey) (AF)—————————————————YES
  129. Nigeria (Abuja) (AF)————————————————–YES
  130. Norway (Oslo) (EU)—————————————————YES
  131. Oman (Muscat) (AS)—————————————————YES
  132. Pakistan (Islamabad) (AS)———————————————-YES
  133. Palau (Koror) (AU – Oceania)——————————————–YES
  134. Panama (Panama City) (NA)——————————————–YES
  135. Papua New Guinea (Port Moresby) (AU)———————————–YES
  136. Paraguay (Asuncion) (SA)———————————————-YES
  137. Peru (Lima) (SA)—————————————————–YES
  138. Philippines (Manila) (AS)———————————————-YES
  139. Poland (Warsaw) (EU)————————————————-YES
  140. Portugal (Lisbon) (EU)————————————————-YES
  141. Qatar (Doha) (AS)—————————————————–YES
  142. Romania (Bucharest) (EU)———————————————-YES
  143. Russian Federation (Moscow) (AS)—————————————YES
  144. Rwanda (Kigali) (AF)————————————————–YES
  145. Saint Kitts and Nevis (Basseterre) (NA)———————————–YES
  146. Saint Lucia (Castries) (NA)———————————————-YES
  147. Saint Vincent and the Grenadines (Kingstown) (NA)————————YES
  148. Samoa (Apia) (AU – Oceania)——————————————–YES
  149. San Marino (San Marino) (EU)——————————————-YES
  150. Sao Tome and Principe (Sao Tome) (AF)———————————-YES
  151. Saudi Arabia (Riyadh) (AS)———————————————YES
  152. Senegal (Dakar) (AF)————————————————–YES
  153. Serbia (Belgrade) (EU)————————————————-YES
  154. Seychelles (Victoria) (AF)———————————————-YES
  155. Sierra Leone (Freetown) (AF)——————————————-YES
  156. Singapore (Singapore City) (AS)—————————————–YES
  157. Slovakia (Bratislava) (EU)———————————————-YES
  158. Slovenia (Ljubljana) (EU)———————————————YES
  159. Solomon Islands (Honiara) (AU – Oceania)——————————–YES
  160. Somalia (Mogadishu) (AF)———————————————YES
  161. South Africa (Pretoria, Cape Town, Bloemfontein) (AF)———————–YES
  162. South Sudan (Juba) (AF)———————————————-YES
  163. Spain (Madrid) (EU)————————————————–YES
  164. Sri Lanka (Colombo) (AS)———————————————-YES
  165. Sudan (Khartoum) (AF)———————————————–YES
  166. Suriname (Paramaribo) (SA)——————————————-YES
  167. Swaziland (Mbabane) (AF)——————————————–YES
  168. Sweden (Stockholm) (EU)———————————————-YES
  169. Switzerland (Bern) (EU)———————————————–YES
  170. Syria (Damascus) (AS)————————————————-YES
  171. Tajikistan (Dushanbe) (AS)———————————————YES
  172. Tanzania (Dodoma) (AF)———————————————–YES
  173. Thailand (Bangkok) (AS)———————————————–YES
  174. Togo (Lome) (AF)—————————————————–YES
  175. Tonga (Nuku’alofa) (AU – Oceania)—————————————-YES
  176. Trinidad and Tobago (Port-of-Spain) (NA)——————————–YES
  177. Tunisia (Tunis) (AF)—————————————————YES
  178. Turkey (Ankara) (AS) & (EU)——————————————–YES
  179. Turkmenistan (Ashgabat) (AS)——————————————YES
  180. Tuvalu (Funafuti) (AU – Oceania)—————————————–YES
  181. Uganda (Kampala) (AF)————————————————YES
  182. Ukraine (Kiev) (EU)—————————————————YES
  183. United Arab Emirates (Abu Dhabi) (AS)———————————–YES
  184. United Kingdom (London) (EU)—————————————–YES
  185. United States (Washington D.C.) (NA)————————————-YES
  186. Uruguay (Montevideo) (SA)———————————————YES
  187. Uzbekistan (Tashkent) (AS)———————————————YES
  188. Vanuatu (Port-Vila) (AU – Oceania)—————————————YES
  189. Vatican City (na) (EU)————————————————-NO
  190. Venezuela (Caracas) (SA)———————————————–YES
  191. Vietnam (Hanoi) (AS)————————————————-YES
  192. Yemen (Sana) (AS)—————————————————YES
  193. Zambia (Lusaka) (AF)————————————————-YES
  194. Zimbabwe (Harare) (AF)———————————————–YES

 

“Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? ….” Is:49:15

A letter to my liberal friend!

Dear x,

Am not scandalized by your position on abortion and euthanasia. I am very well aware that people who stand for abortion cannot but have to support euthanasia, and people who support euthanasia have to move forward to extend their support to suicide and people who are generous enough to end their neighbors suffering and advocate to end their life, cannot stop themselves from thinking that whoever suffers needs to be free of suffering and therefore it’s justifiable to kill those with schizophrenia or bipolar, depression or PTSD, and people who want everyone with defects to be killed cannot but advocate for killing of any kind. Oh how wonderful the world looks from this looking glass! Anybody can kill anybody for any reason! Is that fair?

I do understand your noble intention of freedom of choice and the longing to end human suffering has made you to stand in favor of abortion and euthanasia. I am not against choice and neither am I against freedom. But if these are the two important reason you put forward just like any typical new yorker, then i’ll need some answers regarding your opinions.

  1. Is it justifiable to kill people, especially vulnerable people?
  2. If you think it’s a woman’s choice to decide the course of pregnancy, what about the human being with a distinct DNA, finger print, uniqueness within her, what about his/her choice? and where is the man, what is his role in all this?
  3. What is the meaning of human suffering? we enter the world through the intense suffering of another person, our mother,which was indeed life- affirming i.e; giving life through suffering and how all of a sudden we try to run away from suffering and even kill people and dare to call it ‘compassion’.

My friend. The word compassion is quite opposite of what your intention is. It’s derived from a latin word called ‘compati’ which means ‘to suffer with’, to suffer along, to be in your suffering, to take part in one’s suffering. And to my knowledge in any given situation, human suffering is shared either voluntarily or involuntarily by the person next to the one who primarily suffers. The bereavement and hospice counselors are excellent resource in explaining the effect a  terminally ill person can have on their family and friends. The burden of walking along with them, may it be of financial, physical, psychological or spiritual is quite intense. And Euthanasia my friend is exactly opposite to this. It’s a sugar-coated way of saying I can no more tolerate you, your suffering has no meaning and hoping that you’ll get well and blossom again is a waste of time and I better take control of things and finish it for the good of myself. It’s really a soft way of saying please die soon I have other things to take care of. Is that what LOVE does?

Nobody can call an abortion or euthanasia as an act of LOVE. Because LOVE does not kill, LOVE does not murder, LOVE does not run away, LOVE doesn’t try to escape, LOVE wouldn’t think for oneself, LOVE tolerates, LOVE doesn’t snatch rather it gives and gives until it hurts, LOVE takes responsibility, LOVE suffers for the sake of the one loved, LOVE is kind-patient, it hopes, waits, believes and bears all. LOVE is the exact opposite of abortion and euthanasia because, Love can best be expressed only through suffering and one could also say suffering exists for the purpose of Love.

Finally I want to show you these videos and ask the same questions to your face. Is this is what you call freedom of choice? is this is what you call women empowerment? Is this is what you call ‘compassion’?

Love,

your bff.

 

 

 

” he suffered under Pontius Pilate, was crucified, died and was buried.
He descended to the dead. On the third day, He rose again.” – The Creed

His name is Jonathan

I spotted her as she walks by from a distance, to approach her and to talk about being in this insanely dangerous place. She looks hesitant and rigid. That’s one common body language many women who come down to this place exhibit. I should confess I was rigid myself for some reason. However my complete focus was on getting the information into her hands which might be the last chance for baby jonathan to survive. As she gets close, I understand the reason behind her rigidity and uneasy walk. She has a laminaria inserted and is on her second day of her abortion appointment. So Jonathan must be in second trimester. I gave her the pamphlet and asked her if she had thought about other options. Her response not only did blow me away but it left me speechless. She answered :

“What do you mean? other than killing my child?” 

Women very well know it’s a child and it’s their child but, how did we get to the point of having a casual talk about the death of a person? As we talk standing on the road what’s happening inside of her is of incredible importance. The baby jonathan (whom I named out of anguish to give acknowledgement and as a witness for his presence on earth) is soaked in poisonous solution probably gasping for breath for hours. Here’s how Jonathan died after I felt hopeless and shameful to convince the mother of the decision she was about to make.

I still remember the huge belly, the mother’s eyes, her ignorance mind blowing, very young probably in early twenties and her haunting statement “What do you mean? other than killing my child?”This happened 5 months ago and I never wanted to rewind the memory of the day to register the event in my blog out of the anger, pain and anguish arising out of the injustice happening in a massive scale. But I have to tell the world about Jonathan, his martyrdom, that he was killed so his mother may live. Jonathan was never given a chance, he was treated like a trash, like filth to be disposed and not interrupt the mother’s life from whatever she was up to.

But Jonathan died in my presence experiencing my love, witnessing my immature fight to save his life, seeing the anguish and longing for him which he never got to get from his own mother, leaving his imprints in my memory and probably even praying for me in heaven watching over me and his own mother. This is the reason I do what I do and am not afraid of doing it. I never experienced labor but I realized that doesn’t make one a mother. I am Jonathan’s Mother. I fought for him, I wished he was alive, I wanted to see him live and love. I am his Mother who gave him the identity and love that his biological mother refused to give.

What happened to Womanhood? Where’s Motherhood?  Will someone talk about this crisis of Motherhood? Women are made alien to the idea of Motherhood to the point of killing their own children, robbing the inherent God given identity of Motherhood. The Crisis is not pregnancy, the real crisis is Motherhood!

The one thing that fulfills Womanhood, i.e, Womanliness in a Woman is Motherhood! – Swami Vivekananda